She don't like you...

I've taken this from one of my other blogs because I thought this would be helpful. Happy Reading!

Some men will never learn. Within this generation of the Internet/communication savy, some people just miss the point... quite often. Maybe it's that we want to believe EVERYONE will like us if we put our best foot forward, alas not everyone will and not everyone does. Take me for example. On paper I am AWESOME! I am a woman who knows what she wants, knows where she is going, and knows where she has been. I love kids and animals (except snakes!!), would do anything for my friends, and can kick ass- then take names. I dig sports, speak my mind, and enjoy a good puppet show. What the paper doesn't show is that when I get stressed- I don't want to talk about it. If I want to talk about what's bugging me, I will start talking. If you try to coax it out of me, I will get annoyed. If I get annoyed enough, I will not like you. Case closed. The paper also does not show that I have a proven track record of being hot and heavy for about two months until I lose interest. I am terrified at falling in love. The paper also does not show that I mean what I say and I say what I mean. If I like you, I will tell you. If I don't, to spare your feelings- I will show you with signs. Most women will. And they will look like these:

The walk away: If a woman is not interested in you, her body will not be positioned towards you and she will be making her way towards somewhere (or someone) else. Honestly, don't try to box her in- it makes her feel uncomfortable and it makes her like you less. A lot less. Let her go, she just doesn't like you. Do you enjoy being physically chased after? Neither does she. Unless she has to go to the bathroom, if she likes you- she won't walk away from you.

The watch check: Does the object of your affection constantly look at her watch as if she's praying for it to be later? If she was truly interested, time wouldn't matter. Even if she has to be up at 6 AM. The watch check, or any fidgeting motion, shows she wants time to pass faster because she is either bored or has somewhere else to be. Either way, she's not into you.

The cell phone check: We live in the age of caller ID and voicemail. Thank g-d for those. I've been on many dates where I did not want to answer my phone because I really enjoyed the company. Aunt Sally in Nebraska can wait on dates like those. However, in my early 20's, my best friend used to call me a half hour into my date. If I picked it up on one or two rings, she created a story that got me out of the date... quickly. If it took me a while to answer (say 4 rings), it was her sign to call back in another 30 minutes. If I didn't answer at all, she knew it was ok to leave me alone because nothing was getting in the way of that glorious evening. Make sense? If the cute girl your talking to keeps checking her phone, then she isn't checking you out. Move on.

The no call/e-mail back: Some guys (and girls) don't get it. If the person you seek wants you back, they will return your calls... or answer them at least. Ya dig? This one seems like a no-brainer to me. You meet a girl at a bar, get her phone number, call her in three days... if she doesn't call you back in three days- find a new girl. Same goes for girls. You meet a guy, go on a date, he doesn't call within the first three days, call him ONLY ONCE. No call back? Move on. Someone will like you- just not that person.

In an age where we have an over abundance of communicational aides (yes, I did just create a word), we seem to forget the natural signs in dating. If a person truly wants to talk you- they will. If they don't, they won't... and nothing you say or do will change that. Occasionally, you will meet people who will stop at nothing to keep in touch with you- no matter where in the world you are. More often than not, you won't. Happy dating!